Category: Relationships
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You’re Mad At Me? So, I’ll Get Mad At You: Fighting That Destroys Relationships
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.My daughter was crying when I picked her up from school. She was so upset that she could barely speak, sputtering out the details of what happened between sobs. She’d clearly had some conflict with her friend who circled us, adding to the confused re-telling of…
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Dealing with Cold Pricklies: Don’t let Unpleasant Encounters Get You Down
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.I’ve never forgotten a story that was read to my class when I was a kid. The story was called “The Warm Fuzzy” story. In “The Warm Fuzzy” I learned that sometimes people could give out “warm fuzzies” which are smiles, hugs and kindness and sometimes…
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Are you letting your fears and judgments stop you from making friends?
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.Across the circle we took surreptitious glances at each other. This was a diverse group of men and women; Caucasian, Asian, Hispanic, gay, straight, shy, extroverted. Yet, I felt especially different from the man sitting directly across from me. He sat, legs apart, slumped into his…
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Are you Friends With An Easily Offended Person?
Like what you read? Share this post on social media. The other day I had a conversation with someone that I’d just met. The point of the conversation was to get to know each other. We both wanted to build a friendly relationship. Could we be friends? She was welcoming. She smiled and laughed. She…
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Uncomfortable Meeting People? Pretend You’re the Host
Like what you read? Share this post on social media. A crowd was gathering outside the theater, waiting to be let in to take our seats. My friend Melissa joined the crowd with an unfamiliar man at her side. This man instantly shook my hand and introduced himself. “I’m Charles,” he said, “What’s your name?” …
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Friendships Keep You Healthy
Like what you read? Share this post on social media. If your letting friendships slide, try not to beat yourself up over it. Simply commit to making time to nurture friendships going forward. We all need them. In fact, friendships keep you healthy. In this article, get the inspiration and advice you need to nurture…
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Is Being ‘Thick-Skinned’ Your Strength or Your Weakness? It Depends on Your Self-Esteem.
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.People often say they are “thick-skinned” as a testament to their resilience, which can certainly be a good thing. But there’s another side worth considering. In this article, written for GoodTherapy.org, learn how to identify when you’re putting up with stuff that you shouldn’t. Read my…
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My First Meetup
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.On Wednesday night, I hosted my first Meetup through my new Meetup group “San Fernando Valley Personal Growth Group.” This was a lecture/discussion meetup where I led a discussion based on my blog post: “Thinking Your Way Back to Okay.” Of course, I was a little…
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What to Do When You’re the Jerk
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.No one wants to be the villain. When we’ve done wrong, it’s important to learn from it and to be accountable—and that means letting go of shame and self-abuse. Read my blog on GoodTherapy.Org. Let’s Talk Schedule a free 15 minute consultation by…
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Learning to Love and Be Loved
Like what you read? Share this post on social media. It’s human nature to seek connection, but behavior modeled to us in childhood—mostly within our families—sometimes leaves us lacking and longing in adulthood. This article, written for GoodTherapy.org, offers ideas on how to learn to love and be loved. Read my article on GoodTherapy.Org. Let’s…