Tag: relationships
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Finding Love
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.You’re alone but you don’t want to be. The world is full of people. Yet it can seem like there’s no one out there who will really love you. What is getting in the way of you finding the love you desire? Fear of Rejection Perhaps…
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Don’t you hate being misunderstood?
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.I hate being misunderstood. In fact, it can be very frustrating when I can’t seem to get someone to understand what I’m trying to say. But what’s worse is when it’s an angry or hurt misunderstanding. Even more, is when they react so quickly that I…
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Put Your Oxygen Mask on First
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.Before you can help others you have to help yourself You need to put your oxygen mask on first before you can help others. That’s what the airlines tell you. But it also holds true for the rest of life. You’re no good to others if…
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Group Therapy Can Help You Put Your Shield Down
Like what you read? Share this post on social media. If I’m telling you that group therapy helps people put their shields down, you might think that sounds like a bad idea. You don’t want get rid of your shield! Our shields are old friends Our shields started getting forged in steel the first time…
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You’re Mad At Me? So, I’ll Get Mad At You: Fighting That Destroys Relationships
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.My daughter was crying when I picked her up from school. She was so upset that she could barely speak, sputtering out the details of what happened between sobs. She’d clearly had some conflict with her friend who circled us, adding to the confused re-telling of…
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Dealing with Cold Pricklies: Don’t let Unpleasant Encounters Get You Down
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.I’ve never forgotten a story that was read to my class when I was a kid. The story was called “The Warm Fuzzy” story. In “The Warm Fuzzy” I learned that sometimes people could give out “warm fuzzies” which are smiles, hugs and kindness and sometimes…
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Are you letting your fears and judgments stop you from making friends?
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.Across the circle we took surreptitious glances at each other. This was a diverse group of men and women; Caucasian, Asian, Hispanic, gay, straight, shy, extroverted. Yet, I felt especially different from the man sitting directly across from me. He sat, legs apart, slumped into his…
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Breakthroughs in Group Therapy – The Phone Message
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.My client, in a terse, authoritative tone, announced to the group that he had something to say. He locked eyes on me and said, “I know you want me out of the group.” My heart thudded in my chest in response to the intensity of his…
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Feeling desperate? That may be a good thing.
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.You feel hopeless, frantic, doomed. You feel like you’re on the brink of failure, of giving up hope. Your situation seems impossible. Anyone who has ever experienced desperation knows that it feels horrible. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone…and yet. I do. Actually, I don’t want…
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6 Reasons to Choose Group Therapy Over Individual Therapy
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.As in most families, my family had secrets too. Those secrets were mostly about how we felt about each other; the love, the hurt, the unspoken judgments about each other. There were also the facts: that there were problems and things that we were ashamed of. …