Like what you read? Share this post on social media.Across the circle we took surreptitious glances at each other. This was a diverse group of men and women; Caucasian, Asian, Hispanic, gay, straight, shy, extroverted. Yet, I felt especially different…
Your Independence Day: Conquering Your Negative Beliefs
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.In the wake of celebrating our country’s Independence Day, it’s a good time to consider what kind of dictatorship you’re living under. Far more controlling than the President or the police,…
The Desire to Be Great: How to Help Yourself On the Road to Self-Improvement
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.My 13 year old brain had a shocking revelation. I was sitting in my little desk/chair combo in Ms. Higgin’s 8th grade classroom, quietly working on the school newspaper, laying out…
Uncomfortable Meeting People? Pretend You’re the Host
Like what you read? Share this post on social media. A crowd was gathering outside the theater, waiting to be let in to take our seats. My friend Melissa joined the crowd with an unfamiliar man at her side. This…
The Mistake of Comparing Yourself to Others
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.When I was in my 20s I had a very influential experience with the shifting of perspective. I had gotten the amazing opportunity to work at a Club Med as a…
Is Being ‘Thick-Skinned’ Your Strength or Your Weakness? It Depends on Your Self-Esteem.
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.People often say they are “thick-skinned” as a testament to their resilience, which can certainly be a good thing. But there’s another side worth considering. In this article, written for GoodTherapy.org,…
What to Do When You’re the Jerk
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.No one wants to be the villain. When we’ve done wrong, it’s important to learn from it and to be accountable—and that means letting go of shame and self-abuse. Read my…
Why Pride Isn’t the Sin You Were Taught to Believe It Is
Like what you read? Share this post on social media.Many of us were taught from a young age to stifle or hide good feelings about ourselves. Doing so, though, creates space for self-loathing to creep in. Find out why pride…
Letting Go of Rigid Independence: Why It’s Good to Have Help
Like what you read? Share this post on social media. Sure, there are advantages to being self-sufficient—but there are significant drawbacks, too. Here are a few that rigidly independent people often overlook. In this article, written for GoodTherapy.org, I urge…