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Self-Esteem

Are you letting your fears and judgments stop you from making friends?
Are you letting your fears and judgments stop you from making friends?

Are you letting your fears and judgments stop you from making friends?

Across the circle we took surreptitious glances at each other.  This was a diverse group of men and women; Caucasian, Asian, Hispanic, gay, straight, shy, extroverted.  Yet, I felt especially different from the man sitting directly across from me. He…

Your Independence Day: Conquering Your Negative Beliefs
Your Independence Day: Conquering Your Negative Beliefs

Your Independence Day: Conquering Your Negative Beliefs

In the wake of celebrating our country’s Independence Day, it’s a good time to consider what kind of dictatorship you’re living under.  Far more controlling than the President or the police, your own beliefs dominate you and dictate your behavior.…

The Desire to Be Great: How to Help Yourself On the Road to Self-Improvement
The Desire to Be Great: How to Help Yourself On the Road to Self-Improvement

The Desire to Be Great: How to Help Yourself On the Road to Self-Improvement

My 13 year old brain had a shocking revelation.  I was sitting in my little desk/chair combo in Ms. Higgin’s 8th grade classroom, quietly working on the school newspaper, laying out a page about my graduating class.  Amy Silver was…

Uncomfortable Meeting People? Pretend You’re the Host
Uncomfortable Meeting People?  Pretend You’re the Host

Uncomfortable Meeting People? Pretend You’re the Host

A crowd was gathering outside the theater, waiting to be let in to take our seats.  My friend Melissa joined the crowd with an unfamiliar man at her side.  This man instantly shook my hand and introduced himself.  “I’m Charles,”…

When Worry Won’t Quit: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living
When Worry Won’t Quit: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

When Worry Won’t Quit: How to Stop Worrying and Start Living

The distress that comes with worrying is often worse than the outcome of the actual situation you’re worried about. Here’s the secret to dealing with worry.  Read more.   If you would like to find out more about joining a…

Is Being ‘Thick-Skinned’ Your Strength or Your Weakness? It Depends on Your Self-Esteem.
Is Being ‘Thick-Skinned’ Your Strength or Your Weakness? It Depends on Your Self-Esteem.

Is Being ‘Thick-Skinned’ Your Strength or Your Weakness? It Depends on Your Self-Esteem.

People often say they are “thick-skinned” as a testament to their resilience, which can certainly be a good thing. But there’s another side worth considering.  In this article, written for GoodTherapy.org, learn how to identify when you’re putting up with…

Letting Go of Rigid Independence: Why It’s Good to Have Help
Letting Go of Rigid Independence: Why It’s Good to Have Help

Letting Go of Rigid Independence: Why It’s Good to Have Help

Sure, there are advantages to being self-sufficient—but there are significant drawbacks, too. Here are a few that rigidly independent people often overlook. In this article, written for GoodTherapy.org, I urge you to consider allowing yourself to depend on others.  Read…