When I took my daughter to the pediatrician for her annual checkup, they gave me a guide sheet with her weight, height, etc. One phrase jumped out at me. It read, “Age appropriate expectations.” “Wow,” I thought, “that’s helpful.” I…
How do you measure yourself?
On a scale of 1 to 10 with 1 being a terrible, horrible, worthless human being and 10 being God’s gift to humanity, how do you measure yourself? Personally, my score can plummet when I hate what I’m wearing, if…
Are you the right person for the job?
Does the myth of the sword and the stone have any meaning for you? Many people believe that myths contain thought-provoking metaphors that could help us live our lives. I was trying it on as a creative exercise…searching for…
Emotional Intelligence Can Protect You From Shame
Have you ever seen the phrase “Emotional Intelligence” and wondered what it meant? “Academic intelligence” means being able to learn and understand academic material like math, science, or languages. Someone who’s “smart with their hands” has an aptitude for working…
How Many Plates Do You Keep Spinning? Maybe You’re Too Busy?
There are so many things that we have to attend to in our lives. Our work, our relationships, our health, our homes. It can feel like you’re running around in circles trying to keep those plates spinning. As soon as…
Are You Stuck in Self-Doubt? Start Trusting Yourself.
Where I Got Stuck I used to blog every other week and then I stopped. And stayed stopped. For many, many months. All the while I was longing to start, pestering myself to start, refusing to start. I know…
Surviving the Newborn Stage
Although I wanted a child very much, caring for a newborn was no walk in the park. There were definitely times where I thought I wouldn’t survive. In this guest blog for the Postpartum Project, I share my experience and…
Using Fantasy to Reduce Anxiety and Build Your Confidence
Recently, I can across an old story I’d written where I overcame all obstacles. The story had me thinking about the daydreams and fantasies that I’ve had throughout my life. I was amazed to realize how helpful those fantasies had…
You Are Enough! Tools for Coping with the Constant Pressure for More.
You’re great. In fact, you’re so great that everyone wants more of you. More of your skills at work; more of your love and attention for your children, spouse, friends, community; more of your time and energy to manage…
Are you letting your fears and judgments stop you from making friends?
Across the circle we took surreptitious glances at each other. This was a diverse group of men and women; Caucasian, Asian, Hispanic, gay, straight, shy, extroverted. Yet, I felt especially different from the man sitting directly across from me. He…